Last night, we picked up our kiddo from daycare and got told that she bite another kid. Hard. On the hand.
Thoughts that went through my head:
Panic: “Oh no! They’re going to kick her out of daycare!”
Embarrassed: “I’m so so sorry.”
Helpful: “What can I do to stop this behaviour?”
Apologetic: “Should I write the other parents an apology note?”
Excuses: “She’s teething…”
Worried: “Will this be the first time of many??”
These are a few of the things that went through my head when I was told that my daughter bit another kid at daycare. Basically, I just feel like an a terrible parent. To be honest, she doesn’t really do this at home. So it surprised me. The daycare provider did a great job telling me about it and gave me strategies to discourage it, but still, I can’t help feeling awful about it.
I’m really hoping that this was a one time thing and it was because of teething, but I honestly have no idea. She’s starting to talk, so I could have been frustration that made her to doing this (more excuses)… regardless, it sucks.
I just did a quick search on the web and found these great tips on how to stop your child from biting:
They might be in pain from teething. Make sure to always have a cool teething ring or washcloth on hand so he or she will be less likely to sink teeth into someone’s arm. (WebMD)
Tell them it’s wrong. When your child bites, use simple but firm words. Try, “that’s biting, that’s wrong” or a firm “no”. (Super Nanny)
Depending on the age of the child, timeouts might be appropriate. (Kids Health)
Try and redirect the behaviour. This works too for face-slapping (see Dr. Sears website for tips)
For parents of kids that have bitten, what do you do to stop /discourage this behaviour?
I had a super long list of things I wanted to do while on leave. Did I do everything? No! Of course not. I had a baby to take care of! BUT I did do a lot of things. My goal with this maternity calendar, was to put all these great idea of things I could do in Ottawa in one place.
By creating a “maternity leave” calendar it helped give me a good idea on what I wanted to do that week or even that day. Some days are easier than others with a baby. Some days you’re up for bundling them up and heading out the door, while others you couldn’t even be bothered to get out of your pyjamas.
Do you have any idea of other activities you could add to a maternity calendar? Something that happens once or a few times a week that new moms can do with their little ones (drop in style recommended).
If you have any questions on how to set this up, please contact me.
I need your advice. This was my daughters first week at daycare. On a normal day (pre-daycare), she would have 2 x 1.5 hour naps. For this entire week, she’s only slept total 2.15 hours. How should I handle naps this weekend?
I don’t want to disrupt her daycare schedule too much, but she must be so tired.
I’m tempted to just go with the flow and put her down when she’s tired, but I don’t want to make things worse for her next week.
Do you think she’ll just figure it out that at daycare she naps at daycare times and at home she naps at home times?
Friday was our daughter’s first day at daycare and overall, I think it went well. They told me she was smart, friendly, kind and fearless… but they had a bit of a hard time with nap time… This is what I thought would happen:
Wake her up at 6:00am
Give her a bottle
Leave the house at 6:30am
Get to daycare for 7:00am
No morning nap (she normally has a 1.5 hour nap in the morning at home, but didn’t think she would do it at daycare)
Not fall asleep for her new “regular” nap time (was hoping that she would though)
Pick up during nap time
She woke up at 5:55am
I gave her a bottle
We left the house at 6:30am
Got her to daycare by 7:00am
No morning nap (she cried a little, but was easily distracted with a toy)
Did not fall asleep for her new “regular” nap time
Picked her up during nap time (I only did this because I had the day off, next week will be a different story)
Nap time I think is going to be the biggest obstacle for us to overcome or I should say for the daycare provider to overcome. Right now, this is our routine for nap.
Room set up:
Room: Blackout blinds
Music: iPhone app (slow waves)
Lighting: Battery operated candle
Crib: only a fitted crib sheet, no blankets
Lovey: Curious George
Curious George is in the crib
Sit in rocking chair with her and feed her milk in a bottle
Burp her towards me
Put her down in crib with Curious George
Leave room while she is awake
I have no idea what the routine is at daycare, but I’m pretty confident that they probably don’t rock her in a rocking chair with a bottle before her nap. At daycare, our daughter will be sleeping on a cot and not in a crib and the blinds are down in the room, but they aren’t blackout blinds.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can make this transition easier for my daughter? I would really like her to nap at her daycare with the other kids. I don’t want her to get any special treatment, but I would like to make this easier on everyone. Any advice?
On a side note, our daughter was sleep trained at 6.5 months. We used the Sleepeasy Solution. It took us a few weeks to get it right (she’s a tough cookie), but it now works wonderfully for us. If you are thinking about sleep training and need a buddy to help you get through it (it’s not easy), please feel free to keep in touch with me. I’d be happy to be your sleep training buddy.
On Friday, it will be the first day that my daughter attends daycare (yikes!!!). Today, I’m busy putting together somethings to provide my daycare provider and thought it might be helpful to share with you all the items that I will be sending with her.